Gosh, female friendships for me have lately become a chore! Well, if you can consider lately to be most of my adult life, which amounts to just over a decade -then so be it! Not that I am better with the other gender but gosh it seems so much more straightforward dealing with men as exhausting as that in itself is!
My female relationships up until about twenty have been strong representations of sisterhood where we aspire together and inspire each other toward our varied goals. Now its more like competition, jealousy and cat fighting to prove "I'm better than you". For me, this does not allow me to maintain healthy sustained friendships with those of my own gender because I really only like competing with one person, -myself!
The friendships of my youth are strong as ever and are separated only by the physcial distance that throws some of my very best friends all over the globe. We feel pride in each others accomplishments and share each others pain, all in the same spirit of camraderie we had as young idealistic teens.
So my question, which may remain unanswered is why the adult relationships that I now form with women seem to always involve the horns and claws coming out at some stage? It can't be cultural. A lot of these women are from the same culture that I was raised in. Is this some kind pageantry notion that is instilled in women, that exhibits itself in our adulthood. "Hey bitch gimme that tiara!" I dont know beats me............
Monday, June 30, 2008
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